Boys will be Boys: Age Doesn't Matter

"Age Doesn't Matter." I can't count how many times I have heard this line. People say age isn't a factor in love, in fact it is just a number.I beg to disagree. Age means a lot. To those who say it doesn't matter, I urge you to step out of your dream world.

I've always been picky with the men in my life. I have gone through lots to be cautious when it comes to the men I date. And age is one of the things that always concerned me.

I have an age range. My guy's age should range from two years younger than me to ten years older. Now that I just turned 21, it's 19-31. It's a wide area, if you think about it. And I've always upheld this. I've never went under or beyond my age range and I've gathered much experience about men in different age groups.

1. Younger

Somehow they make it work

- Dating a much younger guy is really exciting. So far my longest and most successful relationship had been with a guy younger than me. He was only a year younger but we were in high school back then so one year would seem like a decade. What I learned from dating a younger guy is that I should never do it again. As I said it is exciting but then it wears the both of you out. A few years into the future, you'll be older and he'll be just old and when he's old, he'll want someone younger and the next thing you know you're being thrown out the front door.

2. Same age group as me

- I'm twenty one and dating someone who's closer to my age has never been my forte. I dated men from my own age group but they don't seem to stick long enough. Men my age do not like me and I don't know why. I would want to date someone as young as me because I feel that we would be having the same priorities, the same goals in life. We'll be old enough to take life seriously but young enough to live a little. We would understand each other better because we will be going through the same things. We'll be able to experience adventures together and learn new stuff together. I think dating someone of my own age entails a lot of togetherness and that's important. It's important to spend time with each other.

3. The Older Men

- This is my area of expertise. I don't get why older men like me. My last boyfriend was five years older than me. My last almost boyfriend was seven years my senior. Don't get me wrong, the older men I catch aren't the DOMs. They're just older. I like dating older men I suppose. They're fascinating. They have their life together. They have lots of stories to share. They have money to spend. They're much more attentive when they're with you. The only thing is they're just too busy. Guys who are 25 to 30 have their career and other plans to take care of. My last boyfriend was working for an accounting firm, a university instructor and a law student all at the same time. Where in the world would I fit into his busy schedule? It was hard. There's a lot of waiting involved. During that time I was trying so hard to understand his situation. The thing is he was just too busy to understand mine. Mama needs some lovin' you know! :D

Experiencing Life Together

Age is just a number. Yeah, maybe but I realized that I'm only and already 21. I have my whole life ahead of me and I want to live it. Of course, I don't want to do a whole lot of living. I could date whoever I want, whatever age they may come, but I have to remember that I matter too. My dreams and goals are just as important as theirs. If I have found a younger man who could take his life seriously and not just searching for experience, I'd date him. If I happen upon an older man (which I most probably will) who can relax a bit and be willing to go on adventures with me and help me live my life, I would love to love him. It's just a matter of balance.